tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6881862716663595642.post2172956989159599828..comments2023-06-21T01:43:46.004-09:00Comments on Mishtown: Confusing Thing in My Life That I Need to Figure Out #154,789,287,764Mishhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14612341216614922239noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6881862716663595642.post-62124958802396027012010-05-26T18:47:00.416-09:002010-05-26T18:47:00.416-09:00Deep thoughts, Mish. I absolutely know where you&#...Deep thoughts, Mish. I absolutely know where you're coming from. Stephen Covey has a phrase, "when borrowing strength builds weakness", which basically means compensating for our shortcomings by relying on strengths we have in other areas; that strength could be, for instance, the stability and support we have achieved through a relationship. However, if your goal is to be strong, independent, and capable of taking care of others, relying on such "crutches" to cover for areas where much serious growth is needed is not a path that will get you there. I am not saying relationships are bad per se - only that it is possible that our motives for pursuing them may be to escape from difficult but necessary growth.<br /><br />I very much agree with you about responsibility. If life is about learning to use our agency well to grow, which I submit that it is, then we cannot escape our responsibility for the choices we make. One of the big lessons I've learned from dealing with depression is that I am responsible for my own happiness, and therefore need to make things happen in the pursuit of it. On the other hand, if I passively allow the default choices to make themselves, I will end up being unhappy.Brycehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16332305609338237125noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6881862716663595642.post-41073626178171210692010-05-25T14:31:23.146-09:002010-05-25T14:31:23.146-09:00You are so wise. I am envious of your wise-ness.You are so wise. I am envious of your wise-ness.Joe and Christiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16887771671539901554noreply@blogger.com